How To Be Happy When You’re Not
It happens to all of us. It doesn’t matter who you are, what you are doing or how much you have mastered being happy and positive. Even if you have completely overcome depression. There are days and times when you just don’t feel good.
It’s not that there is something wrong with you, like I said, even the happiest of people have bad days and find themselves in a battle against the ego feeling consumed by negative thoughts and energy.
Those familiar with the Law of Attraction know that getting stuck in a funk lowers your vibrations. The more you feel bad the more you are attracting circumstances that will make you feel the same way. If you are feeling depressed you will attract depression to you.
For those of us who have a history of depression, anxiety, or other emotional pain – these bad days can take over your life and feel impossible to escape. Something happens such as experiencing a loss, being given bad news, or even for an unknown reason you just feel bad. Because you are not able to change your mood, you get down on yourself, feel guilty, or fear that you’ll never recover. Such thoughts result in opening the door to the ego and a windfall of negativity overcomes you. Resulting in an internal battle against yourself.
So how do you keep this endless cycle from happening? How do you keep your vibrations high and your thoughts and mood positive when bad days, weeks and even months happen? It is possible, and with the right frame of mind, it isn’t that hard.
Here are a few things to remember and do the next time you have a not so happy day to help depression and keep yourself on the path of manifesting a life of happiness and abundance.
Don’t try to resist how you feel.
You are feeling it for a reason. It is part of our physical existence to experience emotions and that includes all emotions.
Even sadness, anger, and depression are all aspects of living a human life.
They are triggered by the brain in order to learn and adapt to the physical world around us. Many people don’t realize that emotions are directly linked to our physical bodies and many of the emotions we experience are simply a way that our brain is adapting, adjusting, and learning to cope with the world around us.
By resisting emotions, you are simply trying to ignore something the brain believes needs to be addressed to give you the best chance of survival and happiness.
Rather than freeing you from your emotions – resistance will only make the feeling have a stronger hold on you giving it the ability to operate from outside your awareness. As Dr. Dan Seigel puts it in his book Mindsight, when it comes to emotions “You can run, but you can’t hide.”
The brain often gets it wrong
Although feelings are part of the brain operating in a physical world, it is not always accurate or even correct. Optical illusions are a perfect illustration of how the brain tries to predict and fill in information about the world around us by taking shortcuts and predicting what is going to happen based on past experiences.
Just because you experience a negative emotion does not mean it is true. The same goes for thoughts, just because you had a thought in no way makes it true. You may feel depressed for a day, but it doesn’t mean you have to have a full bout of depression. The Law of Attraction even allows us time to change our thoughts so we have time to make sure we are asking for what we really want, otherwise we would end up manifesting some of the craziest things.
Feelings are short-lived
We have a tendency to get stuck in negative emotions and states of being with a feeling that it will never end. Depression is especially one of these states we tend to feel stuck in. This happens for several reasons. One is due to evolution and a time when negative feelings kept us alive. It would serve no purpose, in those times, to stop and question why a feeling existed when we needed to take the cues from those feelings and act on them.
When we are in highly emotional states the higher functioning part of our brain (the part that makes us human) ceases to function effectively and the lower brain jumps into the driver’s seat.The problem is that the lower brain has no reasoning skills or logical ability.
A tiny part of the brain called the amygdala is just shooting off chemicals resulting in the highly emotional state we are currently experiencing. It takes the upper brain to engage and assess the situation. The brain can then begin producing calming chemicals, which are a direct result of realizing we are in no actual danger. Without the upper brain in operation, we unreasonably feel as if the state we are currently in will last forever. But, it doesn’t.
The average feeling, good or bad only lasts about 30 – 90 seconds before we are on to the next feeling. Take advantage of this an make the next feeling a good one.
Ride it out
Many times feelings are meant to teach us or guide us. Even sadness can be healing and guide us in the right direction. One of the main characteristics that make us human is the ability to feel and experience emotions.
Attempting to avoid emotions that are brought on for a reason such as times of loss and grieving, is ineffective and even harmful. Yet, nothing is more effective at helping you feel better than to simply let yourself feel the sadness and/or hurt.
Spend a day or two with a box of tissues and let your feelings come to the surface and be recognized, pamper yourself with loving care. Being gentle and non-judgmental toward yourself and your feelings as you process and take the necessary time to work through them.
You will notice that by allowing the feeling to just be a part of your life and self-growth process, it will ease up much faster and effectively. If you try to avoid or ignore the feeling it will find a way to creep back up unexpectedly and will only become more difficult to manage in the long run.
You don’t have to worry about the feeling lowering your vibrations because your perspective becomes that of nurturing and loving care toward yourself with the opportunity to learn and grow, instead of being one of fear that results from avoiding or running from the feeling as if it is a bad thing.
Ask for help
There may come a time when what you are feeling is more than you can manage on your own. It is even possible that you are not meant to manage the feeling on your own and by doing so, you are going against your life purpose.
Ask for help from supportive friends and family, go to counseling or attend a support group. If you do not feel as though you can talk to another person about what is going on you can always ask God, your angels, ascended masters and others in the spiritual realm for their assistance.
Ask the angels to take your worries and sadness from you. They will take it all up into the loving light of heaven to be transmuted and bring back to you only what is good and useful in your personal and spiritual self-growth, on your life’s path, and for the greater good.
Do what is best for you
What is best for you is not always the right or the easy decision. Sit in quiet meditation with yourself and allow the answers to come to you. Ask the angels for assistance in seeing clearly and understanding what it is you need to do in order to feel better.
If you are faced with a decision, imagine what it would be like to carry through each decision one at a time. Make a note of how you feel as you imagine. The right decision, even the hard ones, will bring you a good feeling and clarity about what is right and best for you.
Avoid negative people, images, and energy at all costs. Even if the negative energy is not coming from you, you can still feel it. Most of us are not quite able to tell the difference between the negative energy of something else and that of our own.
In times when you are feeling bad, the last thing you need is to be exposed to the negativity of others. Avoid movies, images, music or anything that carries negative and low vibrational energy as much as you can. This includes well-meaning people who tend to be less than supportive of you and how you feel or who are going through their own problems and seeking out your energy and support to feel better.
When you are feeling sad or low it is the time to focus on yourself and positive energy. Take care of yourself by avoiding and limiting exposure to anything negative or with low vibrational energy.
With the right perspective and tools, you are capable of co-creating a reality of abundance, happiness, and love. I’d love to hear your experiences with the above techniques or let us know how you stay positive on those challenging not so good days in the comments below. <3
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